The mediation process is an alternative way to obtain a divorce in New York State. In recent years, it has become increasingly popular because it has a lot of benefits that a person won’t get from a litigated divorce. The benefits that a person can obtain through mediation are extensive.
One of the major reasons that couples obtaining a divorce are choosing mediation is because they have control over their future. In a litigated divorce, you don’t get to decide what happens. The court makes the final decision as to your child custody matters, the division of your assets, and about everything else. In mediation, you and your spouse talk through the decisions that will heavily impact your future. You can sit together and say, “okay, maybe you should take the house because you will have custody of the children.” You and your spouse can be creative as to what happens because it’s your life, so why shouldn’t you get to make these decisions?
Another facet of mediation that people appreciate is that it takes less time and is cheaper than your typical litigated divorce. You don’t have to rely on court dates which may get delayed and you don’t have to pay quite as many legal fees or any court fees. Many times, mediation can be completed in 15 hours or less. However, it all depends on the people involved. If you have a more difficult time coming to a resolution, it may take longer.
Mediation is also far more peaceful and allows many couples to have a better relationship in the time after their divorce. The environment that a mediation takes place in is generally a conference room, which is less intimidating than a court room. You and your spouse get to sit down and talk through your issues and the decisions that need to be made. You really have the opportunity to voice your concerns in a safe space with the help of a mediator who can guide you towards a successful future.
If you have questions as to whether or not mediation may be for you, contact an experienced divorce attorney to schedule a consultation.
Leslye M. Schlesinger is an experienced divorce attorney from New City, NY serving Rockland and Westchester County with compassion and integrity. She helps clients through alternative dispute resolution. If you need an attorney to guide you through the alternatives to litigation, contact Leslye M. Schlesinger for a consultation.