Divorce can be an incredibly difficult and even traumatic event in a child’s life and many times, parents will avoid ending their bad relationship to protect their children. However, divorce does happen and there are ways you can help your children cope with the changes they will face.
Many times, young children don’t understand what is happening when their parents get divorced. Children of any age may feel as though they have no control over the situation and it can cause emotional stress. However, there are ways to involve your children in the divorce process so they can feel as though their voices are being heard. When you get a divorce through collaboration or mediation, you may want to bring your children to one of the sessions. They can use this time to express their concerns and opinions and feel as though they have some say in their future. It helps children to see their parents communicating in a cordial manner without hostility, which many times is achieved through a mediated or collaborated divorce.
When parents are able to maintain a civil relationship with each other, children are shown that the two most important people in their lives are still able to be parents to them effectively. It is important for both parents to try and maintain a good relationship with their child, no matter the custody arrangement. It is also important for you to make sure that you don’t try and tarnish your child’s relationship with their other parent. Don’t make your child take sides because that can be damaging to any of the relationships in question.
Divorce is a really difficult situation for many families to face, especially those with children. It is important for parents to keep an eye on the child’s emotional situation after a divorce and get them professional help if it becomes necessary.
Leslye M. Schlesinger is an experienced divorce attorney from New City, NY serving Rockland and Westchester County with compassion and integrity. She helps clients through alternative dispute resolution. If you need an attorney to guide you through the alternatives to litigation, contact Leslye M. Schlesinger for a consultation.